"Allow Natural Death" / Issue #171 - March 4, 2009

Home Spa Lady's
Tips of the Week
Issue # 171 - March 4, 2009
Publisher: Marilee Tolen RN
mailto:marilee777@aol.com
http://www.HomeSpaLady.com

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In This Issue
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1. "Allow Natural Death"

2. Essential Oil Tip: White Angelica
(video: 49 sec)

3. Success Tip: ~ Henry David Thoreau

4. Recipe of the Week: Orange Avocado Smoothie

5. HSL's Joke or Cute Quote of the Week

6. HSL's "Inner Circle" News
Fun Gathering this Friday!

7. The "Green Tea with Marilee" Show

>>> Two Great Shows with these authors <<<

Tom Woloshyn - Master Cleanse
Leo Babauta - Power of Less


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1. "Allow Natural Death"
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Choosing the three words "Allow Natural Death" over
"Do Not Resuscitate", the other three words used when
making the decision to provide no resuscitation
to keep someone alive, can make such a profound difference
in the lives and hearts of grieving families.

There is a movement rising in health care systems
throughout the country to institute this new terminology.

These medical orders to "Do Not Resuscitate" written as a
prescription by a physician in a patient's chart, are usually
given at a time when the patient has no chance of survival with
medical means or following an 'advance directive' that the
patient wrote him/herself.

One of the more difficult duties I had as a nurse working in a
hospital was talking to families about the decision to "DNR", or
"Do Not Resuscitate", their sick and dying loved one.

I always thought the expression "Do Not Resuscitate"
sounded cold and commanding. In discussions with the families it
was evident to me that they took this to mean "do not keep my
loved one alive", and of course they wanted to keep their loved
one alive!

"Do Not Resuscitate" sounds withholding and like a 'take-away'.

I'm so glad to hear that "Allow Natural Death" will take its place.

"Allowing" is not a command, it sounds like an appreciation of an organic
inevitable process.
Let me rant for a bit here ..........

So my experiences of the DNR's in the hospital were. . .once the
families had to make the gut-wrenching decision, they then had
to put their signature on paper stating that command - which
carries some emotional weight in and of itself.
And to top it off, when the decision was made and the papers
signed, then it was advertised!

The letters "DNR" were posted all over the place,
. . .on the walls . . .near the patient's bed. . .
. . .on the doors going into the room. . .and
sometimes even written on the patients clothing or skin!

(I must ask - do they still do that? can
any of you HSL Tips readers out there who work
in a health care system these days email me and let me
know if this still happens? thanks!).

This is one of the many things that makes me
shudder when I think about the loss of dignity
people experience in the hospital, especially in end-of-life
(thank goodness for hospice where dignity is maintained).

It is also one of the many reasons why I was so
insistent that my parents die at home (which they
wanted for themselves) if the conditions were right in that
there was no need for ventilator or other equipment.

Five years ago this week my mother, who was hospitalized at was
University of Penn for her kidney cancer, was told by her
physicians she had very little time left to live.

The topic of "Do Not Resuscitate" didn't even come up.
Without a second thought we called Samaritan Hospice in Marlton
New Jersey and brought her home to "Allow a Natural Death" in the
comfort of her home surrounded by her loved ones.

We believed this helped to create conditions to allow a natural
death. . .comfortably and peacefully. And she did have one weeks
later.
The beautiful thing was that as a family we always used
natural healing methods in our home, and just as we used
them for living a good life, we also used them for dying a good
death (for both of my parents).

Seven years ago after my father died a peaceful death at home, I
took this concept and I created "Peaceful Passages: Complementary
Therapies in End of Life Care" to create awareness of our ability
to use wonderful holistic modalities for comfort and care,
involvement of family members, and to facilitate a natural and
peaceful death.

I also started a scholarship fund to help pay for education for
people who want to study holistic modalities like energy healing,
aromatherapy, massage, reflexology if they are going to use it
in end of life settings or situations.

I would like to share this aspect of my work with you.

If you haven't seen my website yet, please visit it!

And if you would like to donate to the fund you can do it there
by following the links to the non-profit hospice Samaritan
through which you can donate.

You can also buy my small Peaceful Passages booklet with over 60
stories on how holistic practitioners and people have used these
therapies in an end of life care situation. All proceeds of this
book go directly to the fund (the name of the fund is the M.J.
Tolen Scholarship Fund).

And you can also apply for the scholarship with the information
provided on this site.

Go to: http://www.peacefulpassages.org - (and download the
free report on "17 Natural Ways to Comfort Your Loved One Who is
Sick or Dying".


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2. Essential Oil Tip: White Angelica in Energy Field
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The energy of the Young Living Blend "White Angelica"
is beyond compare. It was developed to cleanse and protect
your energy field and feels amazing when worn.

I once heard someone say that wearing White Angelica is like
bringing in a band of angels to surround and protect you.

I like to run it through my energy field. Here is a 49 second
video to show you how I do it.
http://snipurl.com/vid_eos_in_efield

For more info or to order any of these Young Living
products see your Young Living Distributor or go to
http://tinyurl.com/aenfp


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3. Success Tip: ~ Henry David Thoreau
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Death is beautiful when seen to be a law, and not an accident -
It is as common as life.

~Henry David Thoreau,11 March 1842, letter to Ralph Waldo Emerson


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4. Recipe of the Week: Orange Avocado Smoothie
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--Three organic navel oranges, juiced
--One organic avocado, peeled
--Two organic bananas, peeled
--Four tablespoons organic honey
--One-cup plain nonfat yogurt
--2 cups ice cubes

Place orange juice and all other ingredients in a blender.
Blend until smooth and serve at once.

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5. HSL's Joke or Cute Quote of the Week
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Sam and Izzy

Two 90-year old men, Sam and Izzy, have been friends all of
their lives. When it's clear that Sam is dying, Izzy visits
him every day.

One day Izzy says, "Sam, we both loved baseball all our lives,
and we played minor league ball together for so many years.
Please do me one favor, when you get to Heaven, please, you'll
let me know if there's baseball there."

Sam looks up at Izzy from his death bed and lovingly says,
"Izzy, you've been my best friend for many years. If it's
possible, for you I'll do this favor."

Shortly after, Sam passes on. At midnight a few nights later,
Izzy is awakened from a sound sleep by a blinding flash of white
light and a voice calling out to him, "Izzy--Izzy."

"Who is it?", asks Izzy sitting up suddenly. "Who is it?"

The voice responds, "Izzy--it's me, Sam."

"You're not Sam. Sam just died."

"Izzy, I'm telling you it's me, Sam," insists the voice.

"So, Sam! Where are you?" asks Izzy.

"In heaven," replies Sam. "I have some good news and a little
bad news."

"Tell me the good news first," says Izzy.

"The good news is that there's baseball in heaven.
Better yet, all our friends who died before us are here, too.
Better than that, we're all young again.
Better still, it's always spring time and it never rains or
snows.
And listen, best of all, we can play baseball all we want, and
we never get tired."

"That's fantastic," says Izzy. "It's beyond my wildest dreams!
So what's the bad news?"

"You're pitching Tuesday!"

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6. HSL's "Inner Circle" News
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Please join me this Friday night!

We are going to have a "Fun Friday Chat" at 7 PM EST.

Kinda like a party, but not an 'official' party,
(we will have one of those later)

We're just going to get together in a fun relaxed social
gathering on a teleseminar.

I want to talk about how to use the Inner Circle to your
best advantage and maybe a few personal stories - intros -
and answer a few of your questions.

The phone number to call and the link to the webcast is
on the home page of the Inner Circle site.

See you on Friday!
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New Video Uploaded for you in the Inner Circle Video Section!
- Ruta Vala on feet for sleep

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Featured Members!

These are the members who are featured in the Inner
Circle this week. These are the folks who are currently
enrolled in the Intro to Internet Marketing Course:

Vicki-Lynne Jost, Janet Ballingham, Rebecca Reynolds,
Patty Buckley, Shari Sternberger, Sue Heath, Kate Brown,
Joanne Schwarm, Debbie Parrish, Kathleen Krellner, Lily Reed,
Jeanne Natre, Rose Siano, Karen Douglass, Becky Cochran

(did I miss anyone?)

And, of course . . . .there are many of you "Flies on the Wall"
graduates who are in the Inner Circle and listening in again for
f'ree to the class!


>>>>>> Learn how to become an Inner Circle Member <<<<<<<<<

..... it is so worth it!!!

http://snipurl.com/hsl_inner_circle

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7. The "Green Tea with Marilee" Show
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March 11, 2009 7 PM EST

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Register Here: http://snipurl.com/cyvmm

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March 26, 2009 7 PM EST

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marilee777@aol.com
Phone: 856-857-1799 (East Coast)